Growing Up in the Solomons: Part 2

Growing Up in the Solomons: Part 2

Hello! My name is Avalyn Hicks (or Ava for short). I want to tell you a little bit about my life in the Solomons. Enjoy!

WASHING CLOTHES

Since we don’t have a washing machine, we have to wash our clothes in the river. Sometimes I go with our house-girl, Josephine. We carry our buckets of clothes down to the river either with friends, family or by ourselves. We start by laying an article of clothing on a piece of timber. Then we sprinkle or rub soap on it. We brush the clothes, turning them front to back and inside out. After all the clothes are washed, we dip them in the water and wring them out. We place the clean clothes in a bucket and carry them back home to hang on some lines. You can use different methods: such as washing, rinsing, squeezing, and then putting the clothes in a bucket.

WHAT WE WEAR

In the Solomon Islands, we dress differently than we do in America. Women and girls are more modest there than they are here (in some ways). Most women and girls wear skirts all the time. It is a sign of disrespect for young girls to wear shorts; but this is changing in the capital, the towns, but rarely in the villages. Lots of women and girls also wear short or tight skirts there, which is not very modest either. Women who are married or older in the villages sometimes don’t wear shirts, because the shirts are too hot or mothers want to nurse their babies. Men and boys wear shorts and shirts (or no shirt), but some men wear pants. Most women and girls wear buns. Men and women wear custom outfits when they dance, which means for the women bras, grass skirts, something under the grass skirts (shorts or other skirts), and the traditional shell jewelry. Men wear shorts, shell jewelry, kabilato, and paint. They shake rattles and wear nutshell-anklets: when they stomp these make noise. Women can wear shorts when they are bathing. By the way, we wear all our clothes when we bathe because bathing is public!

GAMES WE PLAY

We play different games. Some are games that we play in America. Some are native to the Solomon Islands. One that we play both here and there is ball-tag or dodgeball, where you play tag, but with a ball. Another game is called: “What did you say? In!” In Pijin this sounds like: “Wat ah did iu sei? In!” This game has four lines. One is vertical, two are horizontal, and one is a perimeter line. One team says: “What did you say? In!” They jump in, and they have to be in every box, and then get back to the start before they win. (Only one person in a team needs to have been in every box to win.) The other team tries to tag anyone on the opposite side, by moving along the lines. If the tagging team tags someone on the jumping team, the tagging team gets to be the new jumping team on the next round. If the jumping team wins, they get to jump in again. Another game native to the Solomon Islands is called Sela Coconut. One team is a stacking team and the other team is a shooting team. The former tries to stack all the coconuts into a tower while the latter passes the ball to each other trying to shoot the stacking team out. If the shooting team succeeds, they get to be the stacking team on the next round. If the stacking team succeeds (and their tower manages to stay up for a count of “2, 4, 6, 8, 10”), they get to be the stacking team again.

Growing Up in the Solomons: Part I

Growing Up in the Solomons: Part I

Alright, everyone. I know it’s dangerous to say things like this, but here goes. This is the first of a monthly blog series about what it’s like to grow up as a child in the Solomon Islands, written by people who have done some of their growing up there. The series will begin with some of my reflections and will be followed up by Ava’s, all the way down to Judah’s. We would ask Immanuel to contribute, but he speaks a Melanesian-English idiolect none of us understand…

SIBLINGS

It is perhaps unsurprising that the typical missionary kid in the Solomons develops strong relationships with his or her siblings. Most of the day is spent together. Everyone wakes up to the same rooster, competes with the early morning traffic to get to the external bathroom, and prepares for a day of homeschool together. Older children help younger ones while their mother focuses on the needs of one or two. By lunchtime, the heat has become difficult to cope with. The adult does so with coffee and a rest. The children do so with playtime or a nap. Then it’s afternoon playtime activities!

SWIMMING

Here’s our favorite one! We don’t get to do this every day, but the weekly trip to the swimming hole is pretty special. The Bio Waterfall has a pool – behind the children – that is shallow enough for Judah and Immanuel. A cataract, varying in height from 12 feet – where the photographer is standing – to 6 feet – where the children are about to jump – makes for a fun progression for budding jumpers and divers. The water is so deep that there’s little worry about hitting rocks. Today the joy is completed by the presence of friends who’ve found a long, sturdy vine to swing on! On other days, the pastime of choice is a game of “shell-coconuts.”

PRAYER

Before evening, cool and refreshed from the evening bathe (it’s called a “swim” in Solomons Pijin), they set off to evening prayer. What a blessing for everyone to have an enforced hour of contemplation and prayer every day! I love that my children are growing in prayer in a community that encourages this daily. Occasionally, when I’m unable to attend with them, they ask to go up on their own. The children end their day together with their playmates, siblings, and elders, before going home to the evening meal and an early bed. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of the Living God, have mercy on us, sinners. King Jesus, keep us safe through all the troubles and dangers of this night.”

Jonathan is a professor at Trinity School for Theology in Malaita while Tess is involved in womens’ ministries. 

Six Ways to Support Your Missionary

Six Ways to Support Your Missionary

…on or off the field (other than giving them money):
Originally published here

Missionaries are often able to serve because of the generosity of financial partners, but rates of missionary burnout/attrition suggest that missionaries may need more than financial support alone.  I recently returned from seven months of missionary service in the Solomon Islands, which can be an incredibly isolated geographical region.  For more than three months I was isolated culturally and linguistically; I could count on one hand the number of minutes I spoke with a fellow native-English speaker.  Now that my wife Kyria and I are itinerating, we’ve had some opportunities to connect with some of our supporters who have an intuitive understanding of how to provide support to missionaries beyond opening up their wallets.  The following are some ideas for how to support missionaries both on and off the field.

1. Read, pray through, and respond to your missionary’s prayer requests.We serve only by God’s power working in us. While I was in the Solomon Islands I felt the prayers of God’s people on my behalf.  This was most noticeable in terms of my health and safety.  Apart from a bad case of tonsillitis, I was as healthy or healthier than I often am while at home in the States.  When I was sick, I sent out prayer requests to supporters.  Their words of encouragement were helpful to me emotionally, and I quickly recovered from the sickness.

2. Read and respond to their newsletters. Many of us are inundated with media and our inboxes are filled to the rafters, but for Kyria and me, when supporters read our newsletters and write back to us about them, we feel encouraged and listened to. Sometimes a simple, “I read your newsletter,”  “Good to hear from you,” or “we are praying for [insert something mentioned in the newsletter],” can really help us to feel listened to.  Even a one liner lets us know that someone out there is reading our newsletters—which take a lot of time and effort to put together!

3. Act as a liaison between a missionary and your church. Pastors and priests these days have a lot of work on their plates.  While itinerating, communicating with churches can be a real challenge.  Sometimes a lay leader within a church is better equipped to connect missionaries than their rector.  Having a point of contact with a new (or existing) congregation can really save a missionary a lot of stress (besides a lot of phone calls).  Offer to “put in a good word” to a busy rector on behalf of a missionary or consider organizing a weekend for them to visit your church.  This should all be done, of course, by utilizing the existing channels and structure of the local church.  Often a member of a local congregation has a better feel for the existing system than a missionary on the outside.

4. Host a gathering of your friends who might be interested in supporting a missionary (again, either financially or by other means). Visiting churches is not always the easiest way to connect with people.  Sometimes an informal meal at someone’s house can be a more intimate way of sharing about the work God has called us to.  These kinds of informal gatherings have allowed Kyria and me to share more openly about some of the challenges and privileges of missionary work.  These kinds of meals are often less constrained by time than more formal events at churches, and they tend to feel a lot more personal.

5. Send missionaries handwritten letters and care-packages. It may seem old fashioned, but it was a real encouragement whenever I received STAMPED MAIL in the Solomon Islands.  I received some hand-written cards for Christmas (sent months in advance) as well as some hand-written letters.  Stops at the post-office were frequently routine; I wasn’t expecting to get anything. What a joy to head into town (an all-day, and often STRESSFUL process) and to discover a treasure waiting for me at the local post-office.  Once I even received coffee, candy, and hot sauce!  One caveat to this—it is best to know the situation a missionary is in before sending them a package.  Some countries and contexts make receiving a package more of a hassle than it is worth; sometimes missionaries have to pay import fees, cash-on-delivery, or they may not have vehicles to carry packages home.

6. When they come home, help missionaries to enjoy recreation. This past week Kyria and I spent some time with dear friends (and great supporters) in Colorado.  They forced us (tongue-in-cheek) to visit the local chocolate shop and hot springs.  They were happy to share some of the local attractions, and we were happy to take a break from our usual work, which is not always easy for us.  Many missionaries are driven, sometimes to a fault.  Depending on the field they serve in, missionaries may or may not have much time for recreation, it may be complicated by cross-cultural pressures, or, in some situations, it may be non-existent.  This makes recreation time back in our home culture much more important!

Now what?

Now what?

In my previous blog entry I gave an abbreviated account of some of what I did during my seven-month assignment to the Solomon Islands.  I returned home to the USA three months ago and set about transitioning to the “next thing.”  As I transition, I thought it would be useful to readers of SAMS’ blog  to learn about what I will be doing next, and more importantly, why the SAMS Bridger program has been such a helpful component of my discernment process.  I should add that I am in no way under compulsion by SAMS staff to write this blog entry.  The opinions and thoughts expressed here are my own, but I hope that they will be an encouragement to SAMS staff and supporters.

Shortly after returning to the USA I married my long-time friend Kyria.  You can read about her life and work on her blog.  The two of us met as volunteers at Uncommon Grounds Cafe in 2010.  Since then Kyria has been serving as a long-term missionary with Mission to the World (MTW) in West Africa helping with Bible translation research, and in the United States receiving training at the Graduate Institute of Applied Linguistics.  As of our marriage we have begun transitioning into the MTW family as a married couple.  We don’t know where God is calling us to specifically, but we have expressed our willingness to serve in a majority Muslim context.  We hope to combine our diverse gifts and experiences and return to international work sometime in 2019.  Over the next year we will be exploring potential field locations and continuing to raise support.  You can partner with us by giving by following this link (please note: for security reasons our number shows up, 13703, and not our names).

Kyria and I in Crete meeting with MTW international workers.

How has the SAMS Bridger program helped prepare me for the road ahead?

Before Kyria and I were going to get married, we knew we would be facing roughly seven months apart as she conducted literacy research for her Master’s thesis.  I set about thinking of ways to utilize the time to get myself some further training and experience working internationally.  I had finished my MAR from Trinity School for Ministry, and had several years experience working with faith-based non-profits in the USA, but I only had short-term experience serving internationally.  That’s when I was reminded of the SAMS Bridger program.

The Bridger program was recommended to me by a former colleague whose son was a Bridger.  As I looked into it, I realized it was exactly what I was looking for:

  • Instead of a short-term trip, the Bridger program offers highly flexible opportunities ranging from 1 month to one year.  This allowed me, with some advanced planning, to schedule an internship during the time my fiance was away.
  • SAMS Bridger program involves mentoring for individuals seeking to explore missionary service as a vocation.  This was a very big draw for me.  My Bridger mentoring experience taught me a lot about team dynamics, met and unmet expectations, and the daily challenges of international life.  I formed close relationships with my teammate/mentors that will last for a lifetime.
  • My Bridger  experience was highly personalized–through conversations with my mentors before arriving in-country we found work that would utilize some of my previous skills and experiences.  I also had opportunities to try new things such as preaching and teaching cross-culturally.  Every Bridger will have have a uniquely designed missionary experience.

Beyond these program qualities, God’s providence was evident throughout my whole experience–from Bridger training, to support-raising,  arrival in country, and returning home–God’s plan was continually confirmed in my being sent and my coming home.  God raised up supporters.  God kept me safe.  God gave me the strength to preach, teach, and live.  I may be transitioning out of the SAMS community, but I will never forget the experiences I had as a SAMS Bridger in the Solomon Islands, nor the genuine relationships I formed with SAMS staff.  Moving forward Kyria and I hope to collaborate with SAMS workers wherever it is possible.

Who is the SAMS Bridger program for? 

In the 9th chapter of Matthew we are told that Jesus went throughout the towns and villages, full of compassion, preaching good news and healing the sick.  He told his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few.  Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field.”(9:37b-38).  If you are considering longer term missionary service, or if you have considered it in the past, then this is a program for you.  Don’t let money be a worry that keeps you from pursuing a God gifted vocation.  I think this is a program especially suited for college age (in between semesters), recent grads, graduate students, or even second-vocation adults.  If you are interested in learning more about the program from me, or if you are a Bridger raising support looking for advice, don’t hesitate to email!  You can also contact the Bridger program coordinator directly.

Blessings!

What I did…

What I did…

In August of 2017 I began a seven-month missionary assignment in the Solomon Islands.  At the time I had very little idea of what exactly it was that I would be doing.  I wrote a blog about that ambiguity before I left.

I completed my assignment in late February and returned to the US.  As I begin reporting back to churches and individual supporters, I have found that it is far easier to share what I did in retrospect than it was to speculate about what it was I would be doing.  There is probably a lesson or two to be learned there, but I am happy now to share some of what I was involved in.

1. I lived among the people of Malaita, especially at Trinity School for Theology and Ministry. I was an active member of the Airahu community.  I was involved in the religious, social, and physical life of that community.  I sweated in the gardens around the community, I hauled water for bathing, cooking, and drinking, and I ate local food.  I attended daily prayer services in the Anglican tradition as well as faculty meetings and social events.  I traveled by foot or by the same public transportation as other community members, and I ate the same local foods as they did, which I purchased at the same local markets.

2. I tasted many new local foods (coconut crab, reef fish, cassava pudding, “milked” vegetables or bananas) and enjoyed some familiar favorites (fresh pineapple, bananas, taro, yellow fin tuna, roasted pig, local chicken). I drank fresh coconut water and was refreshed by rainwater, crystal clear rivers, and the occasional swim in the ocean.

3. I taught Christian doctrine concerning the nature of humanity, and human’s relationship to God and to creation. I also preached in local churches.  In return, I was taught many things about local language and culture.  I learned about many local customs and traditions from friends and acquaintances whom I met.  I attended a “Kostom” wedding and heard traditional local music.  I learned a few phrases in various local languages and became conversational in Melanesian Pijin.

4. I listened to stories and shared some of my own. Sharing stories—humorous, tragic, or interesting—is the favorite form of entertainment on Malaita.  After a meal, betelnut was passed around, and stories were shared late into the night.  Sometimes in the afternoon, over a cup of hot tea, more stories were shared.

5. I shared life with my Melanesian host family as well as my missionary colleagues. I shared in the daily chores with these two families—cooking, cleaning, even changing a few diapers.  I also prayed and worshiped with them in their local Christian expressions.  Our lives, I believe, were a mutual encouragement to one another.

Nearly three months ago I returned to the US to transition into the next stage of my career.  I will elaborate on “what’s next” in my next blog entry.  I look back at my time in the Solomon Islands with gratitude.  I am thankful for the opportunities I had to learn and to teach.  I am thankful for the loving hospitality that was lavishly offered to me.  I am thankful for God’s protection and provision and for the many ways God seems to have confirmed my gifts and calling to serve the Church as a missionary.

I am also thankful for your prayers.  Thanks for sending me to the Solomon Islands!  Please continue to pray for Jonathan and Tess Hicks as they return to the USA for furlough this year!

Below are a few more pictures of my life and work in the Solomon Islands:

Malaita Village Life Part Two: Sources of Food

Malaita Village Life Part Two: Sources of Food

If you ran out of food at your house today, chances are you’d hop in your car, or walk down the street, to the nearest grocery or convenience store, pay some money and come home with enough food to feed your family.  Otherwise you might order a pizza or go out to eat at a restaurant.  But what would you do if the grocery stores and restaurants were closed, or, as is the case in many places in Malaita, the stores were too far away to walk to or drive to?

In many of the villages in Malaita, especially in the East and the South where there is little road access, families must eat what they can hunt, gather, and grow.  Fortunately, the natural ecology of Malaita provides a smorgasbord of well adapted species of plants and animals that are suitable for human consumption—many of which grow and run wild!

In this picture my new friend is showing me an amazing creature—the coconut crab!  Coconut crabs receive their name from their main source of food—coconuts.  The crab has strong pincers both fore and aft allowing it to husk and crack open the coconut’s shell.  Coconuts can be cut in half and set out as bait to catch the crabs in the middle of a tasty lunch.

Another wild food that grows in many places is swamp taro, or kakama in the local language.  Kakama is an “emergency” or “poverty” food that is planted as an insurance crop.  It is planted in swampy land not suitable for other forms of cultivation.  Once planted, it requires no maintenance and can keep for over ten years. Kakama is not an everyday food, but is often harvested for inquisitive guests (such as myself) and is always available in the event of calamity, thus making it a staple for basic food security in the Solomon Islands.